Relationships Should be a Wonderful Thing

by | May 16, 2023 | Vital Men Devotions

It’s interesting to me how much most of us, myself often included, long to be like the rich, famous, and influential. It’s interesting because, when you think about it, many of them have oversized problems to go with their oversized success. They very often have dysfunctional relationships with other celebrities and with their spouses, leading to three to four marriages being seemingly normal among the Hollywood jet set. God, however, calls us to have relationships that differ greatly from the world, and that’s a good thing. When I talk about relationships I mean all the interactions you have with others. That means you have a relationship with everyone you interact with: co-workers, friends, family, or people you’ve just met in the Wal-Mart checkout. Relationships should be a wonderful thing, right? After all, God purposefully created more than one human so that we could experience the blessing of relationships. Yet, relationships tend to cause us massive headaches and heartbreaks. In fact, relationships are the number three source of stress in our lives (behind finances and work). Why have relationships, which God created to be good, become a negative in our lives? 

Here is a big reason: we tend to look at relationships from a worldly, and not a Godly, perspective. The world teaches us that relationships are about what we get out of them. We date someone because we enjoy it. We are friends with someone because we have fun with them. We are nice to our boss because it gets us a better performance review. Let’s be honest: we see many relationships in our lives as being about how the relationship can benefit us. That’s a very worldly way of looking at things. The Bible, however, lays out a different plan for relationships. 

Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8-9

When you look at all the things those two verses call us to do, what do they have in common? They are all about making the other person better. See, God’s plan for all our relationships is for us to make the other person better, regardless of how they treat us. It’s not about what we can GET OUT of the relationship, but about what we can PUT INTO the relationship. We shouldn’t be focused on what our wife has done for us lately, but instead focused on what we can do for her. We shouldn’t dwell on the behavior of an obnoxious co-worker, but be praying that God blesses them and transforms their life for the better. Every relationship you are in is an opportunity to make someone’s life (and possibly even eternity!) better. Its time that we jettison the worldly view as relationships being about us, and start viewing them as God does: an opportunity to improve the lives of others. 

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