Luke 18:14 New International Version (NIV)
14 “I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”
Before you can become yourself, you will need to to self-surrender and transformation. This is done by accepting yourself just as you are first. You cannot give up what you do not possess. Do not look outside yourself to transform. Look inside. What do you find? Face it. Acknowledge it.