11 Then David and all the men with him took hold of their clothes and tore them. 12 They mourned and wept and fasted till evening for Saul and his son Jonathan, and for the army of the Lord and for the nation of Israel, because they had fallen by the sword.
David and his men had genuine sorrow over Saul’s death and Jonathan’s death. They had lost a king and they had lost a friend. They were not ashamed to grieve. Expressing emotion is not a sign of weakness. When you try to hide your feelings, you stop the process of healing for yourself. Expressing your feelings will help you deal with sorrow when a loved one dies. If you do not feel comfortable grieving or crying in front of others. you can always go on a prayer walk in a private area and talk and cry with God. God knows your sorrow and wants you to express yourself out loud with him. When you talk and cry out loud with God, you are working through the healing process for yourself and you are building your bond with God.