I know this is culturally not popular, but it is wise. Friendship involves intimacy of emotion and soul. I made a promise with my wife 13 years to make her the only woman outside of my daughters who know my heart. The key word is isolated. I have friends who are the opposite sex, but that is only in the context with my wife and not apart from it. If you are single your guard rail will have to be different, but please marry your friend and not someone you have known for only a few weeks.
2. I will not accept an attitude (in me) that someone owes me something or that I deserve something
God does not owe me anything, but I owe Him everything. He has not called me to use people to serve me or for things to be equal or fair. He has called me to serve others and keep short accounts. If there is a difference between give and take, I am called to give.
3. When a win does not involve others, I have bumped up against the guardrail of my own pride, pursuing my personal success and achievements.
Winning in life is not when I set up my success, but setting up the success of others. Real achievement, legacy, and transcendence is found in giving until it hurts and risking on other people. When I am motivated by making myself known and increasing my influence for my pride, I have actually compromised the gospel. Jesus gave the model of what it means to serve others and not yourself.
So what guardrails do you need to add in your life to keep you from losing what you care most about.
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