The Relationship Law of Sowing and Reaping
2 Corinthians 9:6 “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.”
The first law of boundaries: “The Law of Sowing and Reaping.” Simply put, this principle means that our actions have consequences. When we do loving, responsible things, people draw close to us. When we are unloving or irresponsible, people withdraw from us by emotionally shutting down, or avoiding us, or eventually leaving the relationship.
In relationships the sowing anger, selfishness, and withdrawal of love hurts feelings and disrupts the family. The offender may not be paying any consequences for what he or she is sowing. He or she could have a tantrum, get over it, and go about business as if nothing has happened. The other person is bearing the entire burden.
Sowing and reaping has to do with how we affect and impact each other’s heart. In a relationship, the one who has the problem isn’t facing the effects of the problem. And things don’t change until the one who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not their’s decides to say or do something about it. This can range from mentioning how the behavior hurts feelings, all the way to setting a limit on the behavior. This helps place both the sowing and the reaping with the same person and begins to solve the boundary violation.
